09-15-2010, 07:40 PM
After 20 years of marriage I'm finally beginning to get it. So many meals and clean up were left to my wife as I left the kitchen for "manly" work. I lamented that "I had to do all of my work and half of her's." How ignorant I was for so long. I thought that putting my dish in the sink was this great sacrifice, and commended myself for "helping" once in awhile. I didn't have a clue! My thinking has shifted. Now I realize it's part of "my job" to shop, unload, prepare, serve, and most importantly clean up. I don't look at who's doing more. When I see it needs to be done I try to just step in now-and not just what I feel like doing. I've been getting tremendous satisfaction in seeing it through to completion. Cooking and cleaning truly is an act of love.