Please, reach out anytime. Mrs. C and I have completed our 8 rounds/16weeks of Chemo, dealt with the traumatic loss of her hair and everything else that goes with chemo (Nausea, fatigue etc). We just finished surgery and are moving onto Radiation (for 10weeks) and Hormone therapy (For 10 years) all with a 1 year old running around the house when this odyssey began six months ago.
It is all in the attitude and getting help when you need it. Its hard for this Counselor to admit, but a good cry and a qualified person to talk to is invaluable. I know here in VT we have a great "prop-up team" at our cancer center. I certainly hope you do as well where you are. Lots of friends here to.
Be well. My best to you and your wife. Try to find some time to laugh, it really has helped us.
(12-13-2011 06:25 PM)onebad70ss Wrote: [ -> ] (12-13-2011 05:17 PM)Counselor Wrote: [ -> ]I just wanted to let you both know, though Mrs. Counselor and I are prob. dealing with something a bit different here, diagnosis wise. Health and side effect wise, we are in similar boats. If you ever need to chat with someone who is going through quite similar circumstances, feel free to shoot me an email.
This is one hell of a ship to keep on course, sometimes we can do it on our own. Sometimes, we just need to vent and let others steer for a few minutes. I am happy to help in anyway I can, even if it is to just commiserate...
Thanks Counselor:
It is a rough road that Monica and I are on right now and so far we are holding our own, but it is always nice to know that if we ever need somebody to lean on that can relate to what we are going through, you will be there and I do appreciate that.
We are staying strong and as Winston Churchill once said "If you are going to go through hell, keep going".
Thank you so much:
Stephen
Please, reach out anytime. Mrs. C and I have completed our 8 rounds/16weeks of Chemo, dealt with the traumatic loss of her hair and everything else that goes with chemo (Nausea, fatigue etc). We just finished surgery and are moving onto Radiation (for 10weeks) and Hormone therapy (For 10 years) all with a 1 year old running around the house when this odyssey began six months ago.
It is all in the attitude and getting help when you need it. Its hard for this Counselor to admit, but a good cry and a qualified person to talk to is invaluable. I know here in VT we have a great "prop-up team" at our cancer center. I certainly hope you do as well where you are. Lots of friends here to.
Be well. My best to you and your wife. Try to find some time to laugh, it really has helped us.
Oh, this thread will never fizzle out. It might move down the list a bit but it won't ever disappear.
So, best hugs to Monica and to you. Glad to hear this session is going pretty well. The hair is annoying but, as you say, waaay down the list. I imagine she's needing a lot of lotion and lip balm, too.
Counselor, hugs to you and your lady, too. Handling a major illness is so hard. It's nice to have someone to talk with. We're all here for you, too.
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Is there a reason why I can see that there are new posts on this discussion (by who the last poster was), but cannot actually see or read the posts?
Curious...
Stay strong Jetrow:
It looks like you are still on track in getting through this. There is light at the end of the tunnel, as difficult as this may seem some days..
(12-14-2011 06:31 AM)Counselor Wrote: [ -> ]Is there a reason why I can see that there are new posts on this discussion (by who the last poster was), but cannot actually see or read the posts?
Curious...
It's a hiccup in the thread, seems if posts start a new page a few have to queue up before the new page will properly display. Best way to view is to scroll down to the bottom of whatever page you're on, select "Preview Post," then scroll down untill you can see the additional posts. A "post purgatory" of sorts....
My BnG friends who are going through difficult situations are often in my thoughts, and I hope we can collectively offer a smidge of brightness and positivity to keep your spirits lifted. It's humbling to know you trust us to share your burdens, and I know we'll support you the best we can.
Hi , Monica and Stephen! We will not fizzle!!!! Just you two remember even if I'm not on here for a while The Bear family is still holding you in our hearts and prayers! I had the privilege of officiating my best friends' wedding this last weekend, wow! What a blessing and a heckuva lot of work, that is why I've been a little remiss in posting to the both of you...
But I'm Baaaaaack! love and hugs from the BEAR CAVE!!!
Hey Onebad70ss and Counselor, we're ALL here for you if you need that shoulder to lean on or an ear to bend! And you're both right...the positive attitude and LOTS of laughter are still the best medicine, along with lots of support and prayers from friends! I hope nothing but the best for you and your families in this trying time, and for a quick recovery.
And DB, really?..."officiating a wedding"?! What'd they have, a Tackle Garter Toss?...Full Contact Chicken Dance?...Bruise The Bride Bouqet Throw?!!! Just kidding man, glad you had fun and all worked out well for your buddies!
Monica and Steve-about this thread disappearing-----do you really think you can get rid of us that easily???? Oh, we're WAY too stubborn and persistent for that to happen. Not to mention the fact that we kinda like you two. And Jetrow and Counselor--same goes for you!
Ha! This thread going away........
(12-13-2011 05:53 PM)boomer Wrote: [ -> ]Counselor - I wouldnt worry about it. Welcome those kinds of things, but someone trying to sell me gold from The Russian Federation is getting a bit old.
No worries man.
At least it's not Viagara from Mexico Boomer! That was the last virus I sent out to all my Yahoo mail contacts...fun explaining that one to the in-laws!
(12-13-2011 03:29 PM)onebad70ss Wrote: [ -> ]Hi N'awlins:
Just when I think Monica's thread has fizzled out at bit, one of you brings it back to life - Thanks for that. Just a brief update. As most of you know, it's her 2nd week of chemo on her 3rd round (that makes sense doesn't it?) and from what I can tell she is having a really good week and a half so far. The only thing that has really progressed is the massive amount of hair loss that is happening right now, but hey, that is so far down there as far as the seriousness of this goes, it's hardly worth mentioning. Anyways, that's what the drumming hats are for and she picked up a wig yesterday. I haven't really kept up with wig technology over the past 30 or so years, but this one looks alright on her.
As I've said before, I think a lot of how you cope with the situations that come up in your life is so dependent on your mindset and right now you couldn't find a more positive person. Just last night she said that one of the things she wants to do now, when she gets better is to do some hiking in Utah. Thanks CD for getting her on that. It seems that every few days there is some stuff from "Utah Tourism" in the mailbox, but it's little things like that, that are keeping her going right now.
And as a side note, my Christmas shopping is done, just waiting for a couple of crafty items to come up from the States and I'm good to go (feels good for a change)
Thanks Friends:
Stephen
So glad for the update and that things are not too terrible right now. Prayers are definitely continuing!
It seems as though so many people I know are struggling with major illnesses right now, but the ones who have kept a positive attitude have truly had the best outcomes! I have a dear friend who is going through treatment for a brain tumor (well two actually) and she has maintained a positive attitude and sense of humor despite the horrible prognosis and awful side-effects of the chemo and steroids, etc. Even went out and bought multi-colored wigs - like metallic blue and neon green - to wear when she goes out!
I have another friend who, before going through reconstructive breast surgery after a mastectomy, made cupcakes shaped like, well, you know, and gave them out to the surgeon and nurses!! This same friend, who was the most demure, quiet, goody two-shoes person before cancer, decided that she was going to start swearing, drinking wine, and smoking cigars!
Anyway, I hope you both have a wonderful, peaceful, and joyful holiday...love and hugs from way over here in NY!!
Owww we get those too. Had one try entry in here claiming to have all the happy pills for a real CHEAP Canadian price. From Pakistan. I get those other ones all the time, and I don't even bother with them, just delete, block they're gone.
What a pain in the a$$ though!